How to be a good submissive?

I have been asked a lot: What does it mean to be a good submissive? Does it only apply during sessions? What if I’m not a sub in my personal life? Am I inferior to others?

First, you need to understand that submission can be shown in different forms. Some people naturally submit in everyday life, following orders, but aren’t kinky at all sexually. Others may hold leadership roles, yet behind closed doors, they embrace submission fully.

Being a good submissive is about understanding and embracing your role in a dynamic where trust, respect, and communication are key. Following my orders is easy, but trusting Me enough to give up control is the next step. We engage in a consensual exchange within a power dynamic, where I lead your body, mind, and soul, helping you deepen your sexuality and authenticity. Your boundaries will always be respected—that’s why I ask you to send me your "no-go" list, your list of limits.

A good submissive is open and honest about their desires, limits, and expectations. You communicate clearly with me to ensure that we both feel safe, valued, and heard. It’s about creating a strong emotional connection that fosters trust and vulnerability, not just physical submission. I want to discover your weaknesses and vulnerabilities.

Being a good submissive also means being attentive to My needs and responding to them in a way that enhances the dynamic. It’s about service, but it’s also about self-awareness—knowing what you’re comfortable with, understanding your emotional needs, and being able to express those needs when necessary.

I want to see you grow, learn, and adapt within this dynamic. It is an ongoing process, and we both learn from one another. As much as you are open to me, I am here to guide you and push your limits in self-discovery.

You must feel a deep connection with Me—beyond basic sexual attraction, into pure worship and obedience. The kind of submission where, if given the opportunity to serve someone else, you would not do so without My permission. Our relationship is based on respect and mutual understanding. Lust for other dominants should remain unfulfilled.

Lastly, I want to address short-term servitude—such as during a session. If this is your first time, or if you can only attend a session sporadically, we may not have the time to fully develop our connection. In these cases, continuing our relationship online can maintain the continuity of our power dynamic.

When you book a session, it’s important that you do everything on your end to make it enjoyable. Wear fresh clothes, take a proper shower, wear a nice cologne, shave your pubic area and beard (if you expect any rewards), and, of course, BE ON TIME. You can also bring a gift to show your appreciation. When you show that you care about my comfort and my needs, you will surely be rewarded.

Imagine when someone puts in the effort to look good, smell good, and bring you a thoughtful gift—it sets the tone, puts Me in a good mood, and changes the dynamic into something positive and enjoyable for both of us.

Submissives are not inferior—quite the opposite, in fact. In my view, they are superior. You learn about dynamics, respect, boundaries, and empathy. You become authentic with yourself, and you’re able to communicate that clearly. When you embrace who you truly are, your whole life transforms.

When you hide your needs and desires, you’re forced to wear a mask in daily life—constantly afraid of being “seen” or worrying that someone might catch a glimpse of your hidden kink. But when you fully embrace your submission, you actually become powerful. Your aura shifts, your perspective becomes more complete, and your self-awareness skyrockets.

When you step into your true self, everything changes. Your vibration shifts. You become a better man, a better submissive, and a better partner. Knowing and accepting who you are is incredibly empowering.

So many people walk through life pretending to be someone they’re not, judging others' sexuality or kinks, but deep down, they’re the ones who need help. They’re the ones who are bitter, disconnected, and lost.

Embracing your true nature is what sets you free.